So what is it really like for a woman who decides to spend an evening of passion with me? What questions run through her mind? What concerns does she have? What prompts her to make that first step that's often filled with many preconceived ideas.
I think making the decision to contact someone like myself requires first the acknowledgement that there is some level of intimacy missing in their lives followed by a desire to do something about it.
As empathetic as I may be I have to admit that I really don't know what that feels like but I assume many emotions run through the mind.
For some, it may be an awakening and a form of empowerment and for others, it may bring about feelings of shame and guilt. So when I receive that initial email, my main focus is to ensure that you always feel safe and in control with the option to walk away should you feel to do so.
A fair amount of time is spent establishing trust and trying to understand exactly why you're contacting me. Below are some of the common questions that I get asked:
1. How does this all work?
That often depends on what you're looking for but in general, the first thing I try to do is understand the reason why you've decided to contact me in the first place and what you'd like to gain from our time together.
This will usually involve a number of emails, text messages or phone calls so we can get to know each other and create the ideal type of experience you're looking for. I have a number of sensual experiences for you to consider but I much more prefer to tailor everything to your specific taste based on what best suits you. You may be looking for some excitement and adventure or you may be more interested in dealing with some intimacy issues that require a completely different approach.
The nature of our relationship will very much depend on what works best for you which may be a single night of passion or it may be multiple bookings spanning several months and years even.
2. Where do you usually meet new clients?
I always recommend meeting in a public place, such as a restaurant or bar in a nice hotel. This is more about feeling safe and being able to have a relaxed conversation in an open environment.
There are also occasions where we may have spent enough time communicating via email, text and phone for us to decide to skip drinks and meet in your hotel room but that is very much your call.
3. If we meet and we don't click what happens then?
Most of us tend to have pretty good instincts and can often feel a person out when sitting face-to-face.
It's never happened to me where I haven't clicked with a client but if and when it does, I think it's important that both parties do not take it personally.
I don't charge a fee for the first 30 minutes of our meeting as this gives you time to decide if you'd like to proceed. This often relieves a lot of pressure should either of us decide not to go ahead for whatever reason.
I think the selection process should always be a two-way street. Typically, most escorts tend to operate on a 'show-up and serve' basis but that's never been my approach. For me, it's about whether there's some form of connection and whether we're comfortable moving forward from there.
4. I haven't been intimate with anyone for a long time, how can you put my mind at ease?
I think taking time to talk and build trust can definitely help to settle the nerves and alleviate any concerns. Knowing that you always have the option to choose what pace we proceed at will also help a lot as feelings can change from moment to moment
Everyone is different so there isn't one particular approach but I do think it's important to recognise that intimacy comes in many forms. From non-contact (which can be an amazing experience on its own) to light touching and kissing, to full body massage to oral pleasure and deep penetration, it all comes down to letting things develop naturally.
If you are nervous about meeting up, which many women are, perhaps an intimate telephone experience may be the perfect way for us to connect. This experience alone can literally set your mind on fire with burning desire and it's something I'd love to share with you. You can learn more about it here.
5. Do I need to send my picture?
If I'm meeting you face-to-face then yes, I'll ask for a picture so I know who I'm talking to. I appreciate that for some this may cause concern regarding privacy but I am happy to sign an NDA before any identifiable information is exchanged.
6. When am I expected to make payment?
Payment can be made in private once we are alone should we decide to proceed. Payment is made in cash or via Paypal or bank transfer. There's a link to my terms here.
7. What if I want you to stay longer?
I'm more than happy to stay longer providing it's feasible. We can discuss the additional time and agree on rates. Perhaps you'd like us to spend the entire night working up a sweat until the early hours or maybe you'd like me to wake you up in the morning with something wet, warm and juicy. Whatever you desire, just let me know what you'd like and I'll be happy to make it happen for you.
There may be many questions that race through your mind when considering meeting me but I can assure you those nerves won't last long when we're face-to-face. If you'd like to discuss anything in more detail, you're welcome to get in touch.
Peace and Love,
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